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Convincing Her to Settle Down

There’s an unfair stereotype that women are always the ones trying to convince their boyfriends to settle down and think about their future together. While in the past that might have been true, over the past few decades women have become more and more empowered. They lead their own lives and don’t need a man to provide for them for the rest of their lives. And on the other hand men have been able to get in touch with their more sensitive side and decide for themselves the type of woman that they want to marry. It’s been said recently that just as many men dream of having a wedding as women do. So when you come in contact with your wildflower woman who wants to keep her independence going, you may have to do some convincing to get her to settle. But remember: nothing worth fighting for is easy.

Get Your Act Together

Get Your Own Act Together First

Get Your Own Act Together First

A big part of why women seem to be eluding the chains of marriage and dating are because our generation is getting married later in life. The largest motivator behind that is stability. It’s pretty unanimous that women and men alike want the stability in their lives before they actually think about sharing it with someone else. While you may be thinking that together you’ll traverse the craggy bridge to houses and kids together, she’s thinking that she’s not going to even think about dating until you have a job and an income that can already afford that house. So look at your life and see what might be missing. Do you have a large amount of debt? Do you live with your parents? Do you have a long-term job? These are all things that you need to check before you can convince your girlfriend to get more serious with you.

Options Abound

Back in your parent’s day everyone was looking around their dating pool and figuring out who had the genes that they wanted to match up with and make babies. Ah, life was simple. But now there are dating apps, social media sites, and even events specifically for finding people that just want to get together and have sex. The options are limitless. You can literally shop online for people that match your interest and are attractive enough to be considered worth your time. So when she tells you that she doesn’t want to get that serious or even mentions that you’re actually just casually dating, it’s probably because she’s like a kid in a candy shop and doesn’t want to leave just yet. If you’re going to convince her to get out of the store you’re going to have to be the best option that she can find. It might take some patience, but work on yourself and she’s sure to notice.

Be the Best You

The best way to get her to settle down is to be the best man you can be

The best way to get her to settle down is to be the best man you can be

It sounds really corny, but really the only way to get her to want to settle down with you is to be the best you that you can be. Make sure you’re being healthy, that you have a job you like, that you are genuinely happy in your life. Women have been told for centuries what to do by men, so now that she has the freedom to do what she wants, she’s only going to be caught by something that’s really special. Many guys get offended at the thought that the woman they want to get serious with or even marry doesn’t want to do the same with them. That’s foolish and pretty sexist, actually. She has no obligation to do anything that she doesn’t want to. So if you let go of that weird selfishness and keep doing what makes you happy, then she’ll be attracted to it. It’s not always going to be her wandering eye or travel lust that keeps her attention, eventually she will want to settle down. You’ll have to practice patience, because that’s your time to be there when she needs you. Never mention how long you waited for her, she already knows. Just be happy that now you can give her what she needs and get what you want.